Note: This post has been kept in my draft for more than 3 years, and after several times of editing — I think it's time to let my thoughts out to the world.
People do fall in love at first sight.
Be honest, the first thing we noticed about someone is their looks.
"But I don't fall for their looks, I love them for their personalities."
Yes, visuals are subjective. But let's say you meet someone, a bit far from your expectations of "good looking", would you still look at them?
You would only get those feelings if you're close to them. So if you're not, then the chances are—you won't.
You pick your choice from the visuals in front of your eyes. You choose to talk to them, you choose to get to know them. What if you don't like that person's looks? While they're maybe not your visual type, they might be "the nice personality-kind of type" that you've been waiting for but you missed it just because they're not that "good-looking" enough for you to dive into their lives.
So yes, falling in love at first sight is real. You please your eyes first, then you'll want to get to know them. After you feel the connection, you'll fall in love. Simple math.
Without visuals, there's no love.
It's hard to find love based on personality alone. I've seen cases where people hinted that they like you—only to change their minds after they see your appearance. And that's harsh.
As cruel as it sounds, not everyone is kind enough to accept you the way you are.
So don't invalidate people's feelings just because they fell in love at first sight. They just like what they see. The actions afterwards that matter.
What about you? What do you think?
Note: This post has been kept in my draft for more than 3 years, and after several times of editing — I think it's time to let my thoughts out to the world.
People do fall in love at first sight.
Be honest, the first thing we noticed about someone is their looks.
"But I don't fall for their looks, I love them for their personalities."
Yes, visuals are subjective. But let's say you meet someone, a bit far from your expectations of "good looking", would you still look at them?
You would only get those feelings if you're close to them. So if you're not, then the chances are—you won't.
You pick your choice from the visuals in front of your eyes. You choose to talk to them, you choose to get to know them. What if you don't like that person's looks? While they're maybe not your visual type, they might be "the nice personality-kind of type" that you've been waiting for but you missed it just because they're not that "good-looking" enough for you to dive into their lives.
So yes, falling in love at first sight is real. You please your eyes first, then you'll want to get to know them. After you feel the connection, you'll fall in love. Simple math.
Without visuals, there's no love.
It's hard to find love based on personality alone. I've seen cases where people hinted that they like you—only to change their minds after they see your appearance. And that's harsh.
As cruel as it sounds, not everyone is kind enough to accept you the way you are.
So don't invalidate people's feelings just because they fell in love at first sight. They just like what they see. The actions afterwards that matter.
What about you? What do you think?
i definetely agree with everything you said in this post..its the look that comes first..and also this contribute to having the "pretty privilege" too. people do get better treatment if they're good looking and overall i would say its easier for them? "not everyone is kind enough to accept you the way you are" aaah thats true :(
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